Hi, I often recommend recording your singing during practice. But I also know that you hate your own voice. Let me tell you a secret! It’s normal. We all dislike our own voices when recorded. In this video, I am going to tell you why and more importantly: what to do about it. Because if you don’t record and listen to your own voice on a regular basis, you are missing valuable information about your vocal instrument. And without this information, it’s difficult to improve your singing! So, watch this video to learn how to love your voice.


Hi, my name is Katarina from How 2 Improve Singing.

Yes, we sound different when recorded, which makes us dislike our own voice when listening to it. It needs some getting used to listening your own voice recording.

Why we hate our own voice:

When we hear someone else talking or singing, the soundwaves travel through the air until they reach our middle and inner ear, where the sound energy is changed into nerve signals. These signals then result in you hearing the voice. However, when you hear your own voice, there is a second method of hearing your voice, called bone conduction. The vibrations from your vocal cords travel through the structures of your head, including the bones. This means that the bones of your head vibrate too and this sound energy is picked up by our inner ear. Because bone conduction transfers lower frequencies better, your voice sounds to you deeper than it normally is. So when you hear a recording of your own voice, it sound higher pitched or even squeakier that it sounds in your own head.

These are the facts and you cannot do anything about it.

But you can change a lot about how you listen to your own voice.

Here are some tips to help you love your voice again!

Tip #1

Don’t compare yourself to the recording of your favourite singers!

First, you have a unique voice. You will never have the voice of your favourite singer.

Second, the quality of a home recording is inferior to a recording in a professional recording studio. If you are using your smart phone or other less than professional equipment to record your voice, the recording quality will reflect just that. You don’t have all the bells and whistles to enhance your voice. So stop comparing yourself to other people. It’s not a fair comparison.

Tips #2

Listen non-judgementally!

Our societies are very judgmental. Just watch some of the singing competitions on TV with a panel of judges. They are ready to shoot one judgment after another. But do you know who the worst critic of your own singing is? You!

Stop judging and start listening. Quiet the inner critic and listen to your voice with an open mind. Do not have expectations. Do not analyze, do not try to figure out why it sounded the way it sounded. Just listen. Choose one or two qualities to listen for, for example breathiness or pitch accuracy. But don’t judge, just notice the variations in your voice.

Give yourself a chance!

Maybe you don’t like your voice because your expectations are too high for what you can do right now. Give yourself time to improve.

Tip #3

Listen to many different singers.

Every day, listen to or watch a video of someone else singing. Again, with and open mind, just listen to their voice and singing. Notice the sound quality, the nuances, the stylistic choices, the emotional expression of the song.

Listen to great singers like Pavarotti, Ella Fitzgerald, Josh Groban, Lady gaga, Fredy mercury, Fank Sinatra, Billie holiday, Barbra Streisand. Listen to songs in different music genres. Listen to the same song sung by many different singes and notice the differences. Listen to the same artist at different times in his or her life and notice the differences. Notice the differences but never compare yourself to other singers.

Bonus tip

Keep recording your singing on a regular basis. Eventually, you will get used to the sound of your own voice and you stop being judgmental. After you listen to your recording, always find a few aspects that you liked about your voice or singing. Say them out loud or write them down on a piece of paper. Learn to compliment yourself. It feels good and it builds confidence. Start developing this skill today.

In this video, I shared some tips to start loving your voice. Record your singing on a regular basis because it is an amazing and effective learning tool. Use your smart phone or even a simple camera to record not only your voice but your whole body to learn something new about your instrument. Singing is a self-exploration process and listening to your recordings or watching your singing videos is just invaluable.

To help you make observations of your singing videos, I prepared a free breathing checklist. Click the link in this video or underneath this video and download it for free. But before you do that, don’t forget to click the like button and subscribe to my channel for more videos every week.

Thank you for watching and I’ll see you in the next video. Happy singing and happy breathing!

Link to the video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RCjm5ieP2mA